From e-mail:

“I figured this is my last chance to try and get back my ex girlfriend,  so this is why I decided to write this e-mail.  About 3 months ago,  I found out that my girlfriend at the time was cheating on me with a guy she worked with.  She had been telling me all along that they were just friends,  even when she would text message him back and forth.

Anyways,  one day I kind of intercepted a text message that he sent her that was very sexual.  I confronted her with it,  and she began to tell me the whole story,  about how they started hanging out behind my back,  then it became not just hanging out,  but hooking up.

The thought of her having sex with another guy and then coming home and having sex with me made me sick.  So,  I broke up with her.  I mean,  I let her have it.  I said some pretty nasty things.

For some reason,  I just cannot get her out of my head though.  We were together for 2 and a half years and then she did this guy.  Do you think it is worth it to try and get her back?”

Adam,  Oklahoma.

How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

Adam,

I feel for ya man,  I really do.  A cheating girlfriend is like a guy’s worst nightmare come to life.  I can only imagine what finding that out must have felt like,  really.  I have to commend you and say that you did the right thing in confronting her,  and hey,  if you blew off a little steam and said some nasty things to her,  who could blame you?

You’re only human,  right?

Anyways,  I can kind of see where you are coming from,  considering that it was a 2 1/2 year relationship and I take it by the way you worded it that you were living together.  That’s even rougher than having a girlfriend of just a few months who you are not living with run around behind your back.

It’s understandable that a part of you might think that you should give her a second chance.  Really,  only YOU can decide that one.

My opinion on it?

Be glad that you did what you did and MOVE ON.  It’s not always a good idea to get back with an ex girlfriend,  and if you broke up with her because she was not just cheating on you,  but lying to you about it… are you REALLY ever going to be able to trust her?

My guess is that somewhere in the back of your mind,  you would always wonder.  I mean,  she lied about it,  because she knew that you were “on” to her little scheme.

You are probably just going through that stage where the hurt doesn’t hurt so bad anymore,  and you don’t have any other ‘prospects’ on your horizon… so you are looking backwards.

Look FORWARD…

Not every relationship is worth saving.  And if you already made the decision to break up with her,  then maybe that really was the right one.  You might just need a swift kick in the rear to get you back out in the dating world.

Who knows,  you might meet a great girl in the next few weeks and look back and think to yourself that you are GLAD that you did break up with her.

- Chris,  Get Your Ex Back Here

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