From e-mail:

“Chris,  I’ve been following some of your advice and it seemed to be working right up until now.  I’ve been doing all of the things that you recommend,  and me and my ex girlfriend have now been talking and flirting back and forth for about the last 2 weeks.

She said at the beginning that she had started dating someone else,  but now she says that never happened.  She says that it was just something she said to make me think that she was unavailable.

What gives?

I can’t seem to get over this and now I am wondering if getting back together really is a good idea.  What do you think about this situation that I am in?  Should I keep trying or what?”

Jake,  Minnesota.

How to Get Your Girlfriend Back FAST

Jake,

Let me see if I get this right.

You have an ex girlfriend that you wanted to get back together with,  you followed my advice,  it worked,  and then she told you that she was dating someone else,  but kept talking to you.

Now she says that she really wasn’t dating someone else,  that it was just something she said because she wanted you to think she was unavailable.

What do I think?

I think that you are pretty damn close to getting what you want,  only it is not happening *exactly* the way that you want it to and now you are panicking about it.

Here’s the way I see it:

She probably was either telling the truth that she had made up having another guy,  or she had another guy in mind but nothing happened yet.  The only reason why she told you this was to protect herself from the possibility of getting hurt or disappointed again.

Then,  you started making the RIGHT moves,  and that made her change her mind.  More specifically,  it made her change the way that she felt about you.

That’s a GOOD thing!  It really is.

Who cares if she made up some story about there being another guy,  or if there was really another guy.  Point is,  what she is saying without directly saying it is,  that does not matter now because she is feeling attracted to YOU again!

Isn’t it funny how we will fight off what we want to get when we get it,  just because it does not happen 100 percent exactly the way that we want it to happen.

Another thing that I think is happening,  is that your mind is playing some ‘tricks’ on you.  It’s probably just a bit of doubt,  like,  is this too good to be true?

Sometimes the mind makes up things like this to either check whether or not we are doing the right thing, OR,  for reasons of self sabotage.

I would just go with the flow of it,  keep doing what has been working,  the things that you have picked up from me… and let the MAGIC happen.

Meaning,  work her till you get her back,  and then ENJOY the fact that she is back in your life.  Let all of the doubt fade out,  deal with it,  whatever.

Just don’t let it STOP you from getting what you WANT!

-Chris Tyler,  Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back Now

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